18 December 2010
don't bother asking because it finally doesn't matter
with a special thank you to scott brown, susan collins, olympia snow, mark kirk, lisa murkowski, george voinovich, john ensign and richard burr.
14 December 2010
reclaimed art
christmas cards are the first installation.
09 December 2010
where's the cry against obstructionist legislators?
i said where i come from ...
31 October 2010
10 October 2010
this is a great opening line!
what a way to start a campaign
24 August 2010
of bed bugs and bronchi
kristin thought we had bed bugs. thankfully, she was wrong. the er doc explained the massive welts on her leg were caused by poison something and lady bug, the bed bug sniffing dog, confirmed that we are bed bug free. that's right - a bed bug sniffing dog came to our house and gave us the "all clear." her determination came at the perfect time because kristin was about to shell out mega-bucks to have the house heated to 140 degrees to kill the suckers.
story two -
i somehow caught a case of bronchitis. i finished my z-pak, but i still have a wicked cough, sweats and back pain, so i went back to the doctor. i saw a resident whose final diagnosis - after reading my chart that lists the ulcer i had in 2002 as a result of too much advil - was acid reflux. thank god the attending intervened and ordered a chest x-ray.
06 August 2010
10 June 2010
someday we will introduce ...
someday, we will introduce -
18 May 2010
8 stitches and all is well
17 May 2010
hmmm - burn the cheese or burn my finger?
the thought of burning a perfectly good glob of feta made me grab the white hot frying pan without even thinking that i would get second degree burns on my finger.
11 May 2010
thanks for the lessons dad
the following is the eulogy that i gave last week at my dad's funeral -
In thinking about what I wanted to say, I spent a lot of time trying to come up with the perfect phrase or quote to capture, in famous pithy prose or verse, what my Dad – your husband, brother, cousin, Wally, Walt, Walter – meant to me and you.
I looked to Whitman and Thoreau, but it didn’t click. And I’m not quite sure my Dad was too in to either.
Maya Angelou – too lyrical
Rush Limbaugh – if you know anything about me you know that I didn’t even look there.
Honestly, the more I looked the more frustrated I became. None of these literary geniuses captured the essence of my Dad.
About to give up, it occurred to me – who better to “capture the essence of my Dad” than my Dad himself. Believe it or not – he consistently doled out words of wisdom, many of which I live by today.
I’ll give you a few –
At sixteen he taught me how to spell “car.” You’re all sitting here thinking – “isn’t this the kid that went to Harvard? She couldn’t spell “car” at 16?” Believe me – that’s EXACTLY what I thought until he explained to me that “car” was actually spelled J O B.
With those three simple letters he conveyed to me the importance of hard work and responsibility. It wasn’t his responsibility to buy me a car – it was my responsibility to work for what I wanted.
Another one of my favorites was “it’s a long way to go for a sandwich Becca.”
These were his words teaching me commitment – commitment to family, friends, the community.
He would say this when he would return from visiting his sister in Buffalo and stay only for lunch because he knew that it was important to connect with family (but still wanted to sleep in his own bed at night) and would give me these same words of wisdom after driving 30 miles without ever leaving his beloved Baldwinsville while delivering Meals on Wheels or when he would come back from shuttling seniors to and from the doctors for Baldwinsville Senior Express.
Or how about when, EVERY TIME we passed the psychic on Rte. 57 in
“Hey Bec! Go and knock on the door and ask her if she knew you were coming?!” And then laugh and laugh like it was the funniest thing he had ever heard in his entire lifetime.
Frankly, I just thought it was stupid, annoying and repetitive – WAIT! Come to think of it – it taught me PATIENCE!
And when he taught me accountability.
I was a sophomore in college and had just “earned” my third “D.”
I knew I was going to have to deal with my parents so I came up with the perfect one-liner for the conversation.
The conversation went something like this –
“Bec, one more “D” and you’re coming home.”
“Okay Dad, but you know that you can’t spell degree without a “D.”
Clever on my part, huh?
Without missing a beat, he replied –
“Yes, Rebecca, but you’re stuttering with your D…D…Degree.”
How about this as a way to learn about priorities –
I told him that I wanted to take a 2 credit course in wheel thrown pottery. He told me that he wasn’t paying $3000 for me to play with clay and that if I did, in fact, want to play with clay I could come home and take a $50 class at BOCES.
Now he wasn’t knocking the arts or BOCES. He was merely reminding me that I was studying International Affairs at a renowned school for International Affairs and I should take advantage of those opportunities while I had the chance.
Here’s one that I’m still trying to learn and embrace – living in the moment. Or, in the words of Wally – “it didn’t even enter my mind” or “I didn’t even think about it.”
As in – “Dad, did you ask the doctor about the new medicine?”
“It didn’t even enter my mind, Bec.”
Or “Dad, why didn’t you … (fill in the situation here.”)
“Becca, I didn’t even think about it.”
I want to end with my favorite Dad-ism, but before I do I point you to the words of the poet and author george elliot who famously said – “it’s never to late to be what you might have been.”
This was my Dad and the guy we all knew and loved.
A friend of Bill W. since 1979 – he knew that it wasn’t too late to get sober and start a new life with a more productive focus than the bottle and the bar.
It was never too late to live life despite significant health issues. To give you an idea, the doctor’s gave him 6 months to live – that was 18 years ago. In those 18 years he volunteered, traveled extensively – never letting anything stop him.
And it was never too late to reestablish and repair relationships – to get right with those he’d wronged, with God.
As many of you know, this last year has been rough – the stuff of soap operas really. Revelations led to renewed relationships – with people, with God, with himself.
My Dad worked through some life-long demons and came out on the other side.
While trying and sometimes downright demoralizing and overwhelming – I wouldn’t trade one day. I got to know my Dad better than ever. We shared our secrets, our hopes and dreams, fears and appreciation for one another – his last words to me were – “Thanks for caring so much about me Bec.”
Oh, and lots and lots of laughs!
Bear with me while I set this up, because it’s well worth the punchline.
While my Dad’s mental health improved tremendously over the past year (it was like having back the Dad of yore!), his physical health was in consistent decline. To give you an idea – he suffered two heart attacks in a matter of weeks.
After the second heart attack, he told me that I should just call him TAAAHHHHHDDDD. I busted out laughing!
He was referring to the Saturday Night Live skit from the ‘90s with Chris Farley that went something like this …
I leave you with the most personal of stories and the most life changing of words.
About 10 years ago I had to tell my parents something that I had been avoiding for almost my entire life. Something that I was sure that they were going to find distressing – especially my father.
I told my mom and she was “mom” telling me that it would be okay and that we would work it out. I told my Dad and he was – SILENT
The next day I met him for lunch and pretty much cried the entire time. He engaged in “Wally” conversation – the weather and SU sports.
When we were leaving I couldn’t even look him in the eye – just kept my head down and repeated “I’m sorry. I know you must be disappointed” over and over.
I stared at the ground and he said nothing.
After what seemed like hours, I felt his finger lifting up my chin as he said calmly – “Hold you head up Rebecca.”
He said nothing else before he left.
You know what – I knew that everything was going to be just fine.
When I leave here today, I’ll hold my head up and I think you all should too because that’s what Friend of Bill W., husband, father, brother, uncle, cousin, neighbor, colleague, friend, Walter, Walt, Wally would want.
He would want each of us to hold our head up and do that one thing that’s going to take each of us to the next level because it’s never too late.
01 May 2010
26 April 2010
the first time you realize you can't talk to them anymore
today was the first day since the minute that i found out she had died that i've had a ridiculously strong desire to pick up the phone and talk with her. i came across something online that i knew she would find amusing - in fact, she's probably the only person that would have had a big belly laugh over it. it's been all that i can do to keep my hand off the phone.
what i wouldn't give for 5 more minutes ...
10 April 2010
29 March 2010
darlene and her mother are back!
i only know her stomach is bad because tonight darlene inquired - "ma? why do you think your stomach is so bad? do you think it's because that white man ran over it when you were a kid?"
the rest of the conversation went like this ...
"now darlene, you know that the white man did not roll over my stomach. it was the white man that saved me."
"i heard that! ma, when do you think it will be all over?"
"what will be over? your life? only the good lord knows that darlene. the good lord up in heaven ..."
"no ma - when do you think that you'll stop giving me money even though my check is bigger than yours."
"when you stop wasting all your money at the liquor store."
"i heard that!"
and then i got off the bus
26 March 2010
21 March 2010
the new "nucular"
just what's in that tea?
this is a big weekend of change in the district of columbia. spring has sprung - cherry blossom buds and the number of tour buses have popped over night. right now 10s of thousands of people are marching demanding immigration reform. and in a few short hours, the united states house of representatives will vote to equalize health care in this country. it is this last event that has brought about the most disturbing incidents.
i understand that health care reform is a divisive issue. and i get that people on both side feel passionate about their positions. what i don't understand is why a debate about fixing health care would lead some groups to start using racial and homophobic epithets, and even spit, to make their point more strongly.
many news outlets are widely reporting that the tea party rally at the capitol got a little out of hand yesterday. in trying to make the point that congress should not pass the current health care "overhaul" bill, some tea partyer's got down and dirty spitting on emanuel cleaver, calling barney frank a "faggot," and members of the congressional black caucus "n****rs."
really?!@?!@? how can one even be expected to engage in civil discourse with people like this? they're not even comparing apples to oranges or day to night - it's like half the group is talking about bowling balls and while the protesters talk about squirrels.
18 March 2010
15 March 2010
it doesn't take a rocket scientist ...
12 March 2010
oh syracuse ...
01 March 2010
25 February 2010
22 February 2010
screeeeeeecccchhhhhh ... i'm hitting the brakes on blogging
until then ...
20 February 2010
how'd i miss this one?
19 February 2010
they stole my stuff!?!?!?!
18 February 2010
adrian "ice water in his veins" fenty has me HOT
I have refrained from criticizing the mayor because the snow events of the past month really have been momentous. However, I have now moved to the anger phase after reading this bit in the Post and watching the video from NBC 4. It even motivated me to call the mayor’s office this morning and relay my frustration.
I remember a joke on my community list serve after the December storm that the city’s snow removal plan consisted of one simple word – SUN. Well, it seems that it wasn’t a joke after all.
Honestly, I do think that it was unreasonable to believe that the city streets should have been cleared curb to curb a few days after such a massive amount of snow given the city’s limited snow removal resources – putting a blade on the front of a pickup does not a snow plow make. As I explained to my father (a resident of a town of 3000 people where they average about 200” of snow per season and have about 15 dedicated snow plows) when he kept laughing about the fact that I didn’t work for four days – it would be like Baldwinsville getting 400” of snow in less time than there is between NASCAR races. And to that he quickly replied “Okay I guess we would have probably had a two hour delay!”
HOWEVER – it has now been more than two weeks since the last flake fell and it’s still a mess. (As an example, I give you
this next part is in response to another poster. can you tell that i'm pissed?
As to Montgomery and other surrounding counties – they are none of my concern. I live, work and pay taxes in this city and it is my duty to hold my elected officials accountable for their inaction with my money – as it is yours.
And taxes – do you know how much we each paid in federal taxes because of the fallout from this??? The government was closed for 4 ½ days to the tune of $100 million dollars a day. Add in a few more delayed openings and the annual leave that’s now being taken because people don’t want to deal with the commute and that’s A LOT of wasted tax dollars that will eventually have to be replaced from somewhere.
In the end, Fenty is proving himself to be arrogant and less than a leader. A real leader seeks out help and a real leader knows when to admit that an outcome is less than acceptable and lets the public know how it will be corrected in the future. That would go a long way in getting people to move past the issue. Until that time comes, I will be stock piling snow balls in my freezer to use on election day as I go from polling place to polling place reminding people of those few days in February where Fenty showed his real character.
15 February 2010
we get it - washington does not do snow removal
but then i began to think logically about what happened last week - something that often escapes those within the beltway and those who live in places where winter lasts from september to may. on average, the district receives about 17 inches of snow in an entire season. last week we got close to 40" in a span of five days. so we more than doubled our average in less than a week. that would be like syracuse getting more than 400" of snow in less time than there is between nascar races (had to put it in terms that the average 315'er would understand). i guarantee that school would be closed. okay, maybe only a 2 hour delay, but there would still be an impact!!!
forever memorialized
*wish i could get it to rotate
13 February 2010
ugggghhhhh!
uggs were invented as apres surfing footwear -although the wiki entry says that maybe they were invented for pilots when planes used to have no roofs. regardless, in neither of these scenarios were the boots meant primarily for snow. they are not waterproof, they're really not that warm and they have less than adequate soles for slippery conditions. AND dare i say that they don't even look fashionable when the street is covered with slush and the snow banks are up past your knees. it just looks like some one's trying to hard to be cute and we all know that that's just not cute!
12 February 2010
a stripper cake?
11 February 2010
has he never heard of pee pee teepees?
i saw this huggies commercial on one of the 6 1/2 days that i've been off from work (i get to go back tomorrow!). me thinks that this father needs to invest in pee pee teepees; although he might want to explore an industrial strength option!
pitch forks, brooms and mops! oh my!
10 February 2010
oh no you didn't chris matthews!
have you learned nothing from family disputes, chris matthews? it's one thing for family members to call each other names and point out each others faults, but it's quite a different story when a "neighbor" tries to convey the exact same information. so back off!
Visit msnbc.com for breaking news, world news, and news about the economy
snow is not news
so to fill the void, i'll bring you today's news from minnesota ave se -
i shoveled.
i slept.
i shoveled.
i watched "couples retreat" and now will regularly slap people on the ass and exclaim "ENCOURAGEMENT!"
i slept.
i got bored of the internet.
i had to listen to my mom say "YOU DON'T HAVE WORK AGAIN! what is going on down there?!" for about the 100th time.
i tried the chinese restaurant on the corner for the first time (the one my neighbor described as "the ghetto version of the olive garden") and the last time.
okay, i guess "there's a lot of snow on the ground and it's blowing around" is more interesting.
nbc, cbs, abc and fox - IT'S SNOWING
09 February 2010
major announcement
you know you have nothing new to talk about ...
i'm trying to remember
Washington, DC Snow Storm from Es Video! on Vimeo.
08 February 2010
no good deed ...
might be getting a little sick of this
and THIS is a snow emergency route
07 February 2010
the spawn of snopocalypse - the gift that keeps on giving update
THE FEDERAL GOVERNMENT IS CLOSED ON MONDAY!!!
this is very exciting - really just because i'm sick sick sick and now i don't have to take a sick day. however, really concerning news was announced right about the same time. the district of columbia public schools, (in an effort to show how tough our kids are?) (revealing that fenty/rhee continue to make really bad decisions?) (clearly not having actually been out in the neighborhoods?), will open 2 hours late tomorrow. let's see, the federal government, the largest employer in the district of ADULTS, has determined that it is not safe for their ADULT employees to come to work; yet, the district of columbia public schools believes that CHILDREN, most of whom will have to walk in the middle of the street because the sidewalks are not clear, will be perfectly fine making it to school between 9:00 and 11:00 am. wonder if they'll have any teachers? never mind that all other major school systems in the area are closed, as are all of the district's independent and charter schools. this decision ranks right up there will the invention and marketing of the flowbee.
the spawn of snopocalypse - can't figure this out update
the spawn of snopocalypse - the aftermath update
there is one thing though that i haven't been able to conquer - snow on the directv dish! who knew that it was actually a "dish" that would fill with whatever came down?! frustrating.
**oh, and i blew out the back of my $5.99 rain pants - see below
06 February 2010
the spawn of snopocalypse - the assholes in action update
oh, and there's no way we're going to hit the 30" mark, but i'm fine with the 18"-20".
and, unfortunately there will be no snomageddon celebration for me - i've been nursing sickness for a few days and it's finally taken hold. bummer ...
05 February 2010
ft dupont/randle circle snomageddon celebration
04 February 2010
the spawn of snopocalypse
the news papers and tv stations are selling this one big time - they're calling it "historic" and "epic." the post is even running a "name the storm" contest - my favorite? snOMG.
but, my absolute favorite thing to come from the build up and hype is -